If you no longer have a relationship with your parent(s), for example you don’t see them, or communicate with them, this is referred to as ‘estrangement’. If you have very occasional communication, you might still be able to be considered estranged. We have another web page which explains what estrangement is, how and why it might happen, and what emotional support is available for anyone affected by estrangement.
Queen Mary University of London has taken a pledge to outline our commitment to estranged students, with the charity Standalone. Queen Mary has a dedicated scheme to support estranged students to achieve their potential and succeed at university. This webpage outlines this support, which is largely delivered by Welfare Advisers working within the Queen Mary Advice and Counselling Service. You are encouraged to contact us to access this support as early as possible. If you become estranged before you join Queen Mary, you may like to contact us even before you apply for your place, but you are also welcome to contact us at any stage of your course. If you become estranged from your family during your course please contact us as soon as you can so we can help to ensure that you secure appropriate funding and housing and that the impact on your studies is minimised where possible.
If you have not yet applied to university, there is guidance for estranged students on the UCAS website.
Some elements of Student Finance - part of the Maintenance Loan, and all of the Maintenance Grant (for pre-2016 starters only) - as well as the Queen Mary University of London Bursary, are income assessed. This usually means that you need to provide evidence of the income of your parent(s). However, if you are estranged from your parents, your Student Finance can be assessed against your own income, which usually means you would get the maximum amounts.
How do I apply to be assessed as independent due to estrangement?
If you are claiming independent status on the basis of estrangement, Student Finance England asks you to demonstrate that either:
• you have not communicated with your parents for at least one year before the beginning of the academic year for which you are applying for Student Finance, or
• you can demonstrate in another way that you are irreconcilably estranged from your parents. This means that for the short to medium term you don’t see that you will be able to resume your relationship with your parents
You can’t claim independent status just because you don’t get on with your parents or because you don’t live with them, or because your parents don’t want to give details of their income, or refuse to provide financial support to you.
Welfare Advisers in the Advice and Counselling Service have worked with many students whose estrangement with their parents has lasted for less than one year, or it has lasted one year but there has been some occasional communication, and these applications can be successful. You can arrange to meet with a Welfare Adviser to discuss your situation, and they can help you to think about how you can explain your situation so that SFE will understand it.
If you are usually assessed on one parent’s income, because your parent is a lone parent, and that parent dies you will be required to either provide income information for your remaining parent or evidence to SFE that you are not in contact with that parent. Please contact a Welfare Adviser in the Advice and Counselling Service who can help you with this.
You can find detailed information about Student Finance and how to apply in our Undergraduate Funding advice guides (pre-2016 starters / 2016 onwards starters). If you are a medical or dental student, there is a separate advice guide.
What information should I include in my letter to SFE?
You will need to write a letter to SFE, explaining your estrangement. This does not mean that you are saying you will never be able to resume your relationship with your parents, it is just saying that you don't currently have contact with them, and don't expect to for the foreseeable future. You may be reassured to know that SFE won't show your letter to your parents. You might find that it feels difficult to write all of this information down, as often the circumstances you are writing about will bring up painful feelings. A Welfare Adviser can help you write your letter with you, if you would find that helpful.
In your letter to explain your estrangement, you should try and include the following information:
• what circumstances led up to the estrangement (often someone’s relationship with their parents is difficult for some time before they actually stop having any contact, so you could try and describe this, if it applies to you)
• what you feel are the reasons that the estrangement has happened
• when did it happen
• how did it happen (e.g. did your parents ask you to move out, or did you decide to move out; did you stay with a friend or another family member, or did you start renting your own accommodation, etc)
• what is your situation now (e.g. do you have any contact with your parents at all, if so how often and by what means – phone/email/in person)
• why you feel that for now the situation is irreconcilable (e.g. what is it about the situation that means you believe that you cannot resume your relationship with your parents in the foreseeable future)
Do I need to provide any evidence?
A Welfare Adviser can advise you about what documents you might be able to provide in support of your application. Please be reassured that successful applications have been made with no supporting documents where none are available. If someone else knows about the circumstances of your estrangement, for example a professional person outside your family such a as a teacher or social worker, or doctor, then a letter from confirming your situation would be very helpful. However, very often students who are estranged from their parents have not had any contact with a professional person in relation to the estrangement, in which case such a letter would not be required. Sometimes students ask someone who knows the situation, for example a friend or family member to provide a letter.
Where appropriate your Welfare Adviser will also write a letter of support for your SFE application. The adviser can email your independent application directly to the Independent Team at SFE, which means you should have a decision very quickly, usually within a few days.
Will I need to prove my estrangement every year?
Once you have been granted independent status on the basis of estrangement, in subsequent academic years SFE will ask you to complete a declaration form, which SFE should send to your online account. To complete the form you will need to ask someone who knows you to confirm that you continue to be estranged. You can contact a Welfare Adviser at the Advice and Counselling Service who can normally complete this for you.
If you experience any difficulties in re-applying for Student Finance as an independent student on the basis of estrangement, please contact a Welfare Adviser in the Advice and Counselling Service.
What do I do if my Student Finance application has been refused?
Please contact a Welfare Adviser for advice as soon as possible. We are often able to help students successfully appeal against the refusal of their Student Finance application. It may just be that SFE have not fully understood your circumstances, or that they need more evidence, which we can help you with.
Queen Mary University of London Bursaries
University Financial Assistance Fund
Young independent students can also apply to the University Financial Assistance Fund for a grant to help towards paying rent during the summer vacation between each academic year of your course. If you become estranged during your course, you may need financial help to move into alternative accommodation. A Welfare Adviser can advise you about making an application to the University Financial Assistance Fund, or you can contact the Bursaries office directly.
There are a limited number of these scholarships each academic year. The scholarship pays for the full cost of accommodation at Rahere Court (opposite the Queen Mary Mile End campus) for up to three years. The scholarship is open to young independent students who are estranged from their family, or who have previously been in Local Authority care, or residing in a Foyer or similar residential provision for young homeless adults. New students, as well as continuing students, are eligible to apply. The full eligibility criteria, application form and deadline are available here.
If you have applied for a room in Queen Mary halls of residence, the Unite scholarships should be allocated by early July, which is before the deadline to accept an offer of halls accommodation. So, you can wait until you know whether you have been awarded the Unite scholarship before you have to decide whether to take a room in halls.
It is very important to plan your budget carefully for university, so that you understand the costs of living and tuition fees, and where you will get your money from to pay for those costs.
We have prepared an example of an undergraduate student budget on our website, so you can see what kinds of expenses you will have. The cost of living does vary a lot according to lifestyle, so the budget planner is just an example which you can download and fill out for yourself, to create your own personal budget plan.
By planning a budget you will be more in control of your money as you will know your total income, and your total expenses, as well as when you’ll receive your income during the year, and when you will have to pay for expenses. It will enable you to identify in advance any gap between your income and expenses, so you can think how to either reduce your spending or increase your income.
A Welfare Adviser in the Advice and Counselling Service can help you to plan your budget, either before you join Queen Mary or at any time during your course. They can also help you check whether you have applied for all of the funding you are eligible for. There may be sources of funding you have not considered yet – see our advice guide Additional Sources of Funding for details.
Please also read the section of this page about the Unite Foundation Scholarship.
You will need to decide what type of accommodation and in what location will be best for you, according to your circumstances.
If you feel settled in your current accommodation, and if you feel that the journey to Queen Mary would be manageable, you might decide to stay there while you are a student. You will need to factor the cost of travelling to university into your budget - see What's the cost of living in London?
Alternatively, you may prefer to live closer to university, or in University Halls of Residence. All first year students who apply for university housing by the deadline of 31 May are guaranteed a place, so all you need to do is apply.
Or you may prefer to rent private accommodation. Queen Mary Housing Services staff can advise you on all of your housing options. You can either call in to see them or contact them to book an appointment - contact details are here.
If you are an existing student and you have to leave home quickly during the academic year, if rooms are available in halls then you can apply online or contact a Welfare Adviser for help with this and other practicalities. Even if rooms are not available on campus long term, we will help you find emergency accommodation which gives you time to look for privately rented accommodation - the Housing Services team can help you with this and there is also lots of information on their website.
Current students can apply to stay in halls of residence during the summer vacation. If you have already been living in halls during the academic year and you get a summer place, you may have to move room. To apply for summer accommodation you just email email@example.com and ask for a summer housing application form to be emailed to you. Summer rooms are allocated from the end of April onwards. There is no application deadline but it is best to apply in April if you can in case rooms fill up.
Queen Mary Careers and Enterprise Centre
As an estranged student, you have the option of having a dedicated Careers Consultant throughout your course at the Queen Mary Careers and Enterprise Centre. Employers are looking to see graduates have developed transferable skills and work experience alongside their academic studies. A Careers Consultant can give you one to one advice and help with building your work experience and skills throughout your time at university. If you attend an appointment with a Welfare Adviser, we can make a direct referral to Careers for you.